摘要：AbstractThe aim of the qualitative study is to illuminate couples partners‟ experiences of difference. A sample of 10 heterosexual couples, out of 15 applying for group psychological counseling was interviewed for narrative research. The findings revealed the theme “We are in a trap and we do the same thing again” by all participants referring to the repetitive situations of tension. Other themes like “I have my world anyway”, “I don‟t notice you” and “My choice is better” may illustrate lower interest in the experience of the other person in couple when it differs from ones own, even emotional detachment and the comparative way differences were described as well as preference towards one's own point of view. These findings are discussed with reference to the importance of connectedness and dialogue in relationship emphasizing unrecognized, fused, distant, vaguely verbalized experiences of differences.
