We talk about a psychosomatic illness when we are referring to a painful emotional behavior (headaches and back pains are among the most typical) where no structural changes on tissue or organs occur. Partner therapy, which addresses health problems of both spouses, exposes the connection between a bad condition and a bad relationship. As it will be possible to see from the presented extracts of the present therapeutic conversation, their relationship is based mainly on control, criticism, reproaches, blame, power measurements, failed attempts to exert control, gaining attention, acceptance and consideration. For many years now, they have been living in a vicious circle, full of controlling behaviors and thus losing– each in their own way - control over their own lives and their marriage.

The presented case is a presentation of the harmful use of the psychological behaviors of external control in a partner relationship. The psychotherapeutic process involving the couple shows a way to create new figures, through which the spouses can appease their basic psychic needs more successfully and regain control over their lives and their marriage