A tribute to Gregory Hemingway.
Miller, Linda Patterson
A scholar shares memories and impressions of Ernest
Hemingway's youngest son Gregory, who died in Miami, Florida on 1
October 2001.
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GREGORY H. HEMINGWAY, ERNEST HEMINGWAY'S THIRD SON, died in
Miami, Florida, almost one month shy of his 70th birthday. Born on 12
November 1931, he grew up in the Key West home that his parents, Ernest
and Pauline Hemingway, acquired shortly after their marriage. Although
Gregory's memories of his early life in Florida came to him later
"in flashes, incomplete," his more graphic remembrances of
summers spent with his father and two brothers Patrick and Jack (Bumby)
would inspire his Papa: A Personal Memoir (Houghton Mifflin, 1976). This
memoir, widely recognized as one of the best (most honest and most
affecting) books written on Hemingway by those who knew him, portrays
Papa as "kind, gentle, elemental in his vastness" and also,
not unrelated, "tormented beyond endurance." But more than a
book off Hemingway, Gregory's memoir chronicles a close and in
later years troubled father/son relationship. Significantly, Gregory
begins Papa by quoting a passage from Islands in the Stream that
underscores the physical and psychological similarities between Thomas
Hudson and his youngest son Andrew. The young boy Andrew (modeled after
Gregory) had "a humorous face" and a "devilish"
nature, and he "was a copy of Thomas Hudson, physically, reduced in
scale and widened and shortened." This boy also had "a dark
side to him that nobody except Thomas Hudson could ever understand.
Neither of them thought about this except that they recognized it in
each other" and they "were very close to each other."
Following a breach in his relationship with his father that began
with the death of Pauline in 1951, Gregory sought to resurrect in
memory, and through writing, the best of his boyhood idylls in the
American West and in Bimini and Cuba. In his later years, he wanted to
revisit these places physically, and in this he found an unexpected
alliance with the Hemingway Society as it held conferences in all the
great Hemingway locales, including Paris. Gregory joined up briefly with
the Hemingway Society at the Closerie des Lilas gathering that
inaugurated the 1992 Hemingway/ Fitzgerald conference, but in 1995 he
spent a week in Cuba with a group of Hemingway scholars, most of whom
were there for the first time. For Gregory, it was his first time back
in 45 years. Photos from that trip, including at Cojimar where Hemingway
had moored his boat Pilar (now resting on uneasy pilings down the slope
a few yards beyond the empty Finca Vigia pool) show Gregory standing at
the center, smiling. He seems most ebullient in those photos of him
descending the plane stairway to set foot once again on Cuban soil. In
these photos, taken from the ground looking up, he almost seems to
float, poised and framed against a gray-white sky.
No one could have anticipated or described, however, the experience
of seeing the Finca Vigia. Gregory had rendered in his memoirs its
transcendent beauty "perched on the highest point of land" and
surrounded by "tall royal palms" and wildly-blooming
bougainvillea vines, yet even Gregory, when he saw it again for the
first time, was caught off guard. "The rambling, one-story Spanish
colonial" seemed to lift skyward and tilt as we peered into the
windows to see Hemingway's books, his shoes, and the white stucco
walls with all those animal heads looking upward, their horns spiraling
in impossible arcs. As Gregory approached the house for the first time
in decades, he paused and then stopped, motionless. When he finally
walked On up to look into the windows of the guesthouse wing where he
and his brothers had stayed, he stated almost inaudibly, "All my
books are still here. Nothing has changed."
When Gregory came to the Hemingway Conference in Bimini in January
2000, he seemed to relish his time fishing with the Hemingway scholars
he now considered friends and participating as well in some of the
conference events. For the most part, though, he kept to himself, which
was not so easy to do on that sliver of land with its handful of
eateries and its two dirt roads that both defined and contained the
island's parameters. Most of the conference sessions were held in
the white clapboard church down the Queen's Highway a hundred yards
or so from the Thomas Hudson house (Michael Lerner house). If you turned
around in any one of the wooden pews lined up in rows, you could see
through the open church doorway to the turquoise ocean waters outside.
As the ceiling fans whirred softly, the air drifted in and out the side
windows, their wooden shutters propped up skyward like wings. When
Gregory came to the scholarly sessions, which he liked to do when they
carried a biographical slant, he generally sat toward the front and he
wore a white guayabera.
In July 1999, Gregory joined with his two brothers at the
rededication of the house on North Oak Park Avenue where their father
was born. As Patrick Hemingway described it in the panel discussion held
later during this centennial celebration of Hemingway's life, he
and his brothers had appreciated that the early morning birthday salute
to Papa had been understated and dignified. Because his father had led
such an extraordinarily full life as a writer and a man, Patrick did not
feel saddened by his death so much as grateful for what Hemingway had
brought to so many people.
Gregory, as he confessed it in his memoirs and would talk about it
later, had feelings a bit more mixed. Gregory felt "profound relief
when they lowered my father's body into the ground and I realized
that he was really dead, that I couldn't disappoint him,
couldn't hurt him anymore." Then he went on to hope that his
father (and, indirectly, himself as well) would find peace. "But,
oh God, I knew there was no peace after death. If only it were
different, because nobody ever dreamed of, or longed for, or
experienced, less peace than he. He wrote of that longing all his life,
in words as simple and as complicated as autumn and as spring."
At the end of the week in Cuba in 1995, I encountered Gregory
unexpectedly as we stood in the Havana airport waiting to leave. When I
asked Gregory how he had enjoyed the week, he confessed that he had come
to Cuba hoping to put his father to rest. It had not been easy being the
son of an American icon, and he thought that by revisiting all those
places of his past he might discover a separate peace. But no matter how
often he worked it over in his mind, he said, he could not easily
embrace his own memories and there was no peace. In this context, he
observed that he had decided to become a physician because it was the
farthest profession from what his father did and he wanted to make his
own name. He recalled as well his father telling him (as he had recorded
it in his memoir) that "it doesn't really matter what you do
as long as you do something you think is worthwhile and productive"
and that you love doing. By the time his father had entered the Mayo
Clinic in 1961 knowing, as Gregory saw it, that his life as a writer was
over, Gregory's own career as a doctor had just begun. He had
enrolled in medical school, and, during the 1970s and 1980s, he
practiced medicine in New York and Montana prior to returning to live,
once again, in Florida up until his death.
Friends and family of Gregory would acknowledge his sensitivity,
his tenderness and his almost childlike potential for joy. Hemingway
scholars who came to know him also will miss him. He was emotionally
generous and transparent to the same degree that he sustained an inner
terror and an emotional reserve that could not be touched.
Gregory's description of his father seemed to describe Gregory as
well. Beneath Papa's "boisterous exterior," Gregory said,
"he was a reserved man, somewhat incapable of expressing his
affection in the conventional way."
LINDA PATTERSON MILLER
Penn State Abington