Women of the world unite--we have nothing to lose but our men (1968).
Martinez, Elizabeth "Betita" Sutherland ; Hanisch, Carol
The following is a "conversation" put together from
various comments made by women and men on the subject of women's
liberation. "Women's liberation doesn't have the
immediate importance of black liberation or ending the war in
Vietnam--the revolution."
That statement shows you have no concept of the oppression of
women. It's true that women are not being killed off as a group in
the great numbers that black people and Vietnamese are, or in such
obvious ways. But 10,000 women die each year from abortions * because
the men who run this country have decided that a women may not control
her own body. Women are dehumanized and put into service roles like
black people. More of us can make it economically if we are willing to
prostitute ourselves as wives of upper or middle-class men. House
niggers. But basically we are economically exploited, psychologically
oppressed, and socially kept in "our place" by men and by a
capitalist system that has institutionalized male supremacy-- in a more
subtle way than the caveman but just as destructively.
"But other people are more oppressed than you."
That may or may not be. It seems rather futile to argue about who
is the most or more oppressed. If you're being stepped on, you
don't stop to argue about whether the foot on your neck is heavier
than the one on the neck of somebody else. You try to free yourself. And
where it's the same foot, you work together. There may be several
things holding you down at once. If you're a woman, it's men
and the capitalist system. If you're a black woman, it's also
racism.
"Are you saying that women shouldn't fight in other
struggles?"
Of course not. Women will never be free in this country as it now
exists because nobody can be. So you have to fight to change the whole
thing. But we could change the economic system and women could still be
victims of male supremacy, just as black people could still be victims
of racism. To assure that this doesn't happen, women have to
organize themselves to fight male supremacy.
"You make a lot of analogies to the black movement. How do you
see your relationship to black women?"
At the moment, our group is largely white. Occasionally a black
woman will come to meetings and that's great. Our meetings are open
to all women. However, there is a reluctance on the part of white women
to assume that black women want to be part of an "integrated"
group. Black women may want to get together themselves first.
Furthermore, we're all sisters but some of our problems are
different. Many militant black women see their struggle as a fight
alongside their men for survival; some say that only middle-class white
women can afford to worry about their freedom as women. Some nonwhite
women are beginning to organize on the woman issue, however, so
apparently there isn't complete rejection of the idea. Hopefully
all women will eventually be able to get together and fight for certain
programs. This should result in a lessening of white supremacist
attitudes, too, as white women get together with non-white women around
similar needs. We will fight such racist practices as using maids to do
the personal dirty work that men should share equally with us.
"But women don't have it so bad. There are women doctors,
lawyers, architects. Women are in almost all the fields open to
men."
Almost is a big word. Besides, the number of women in creative and
well-paying jobs is very limited. There are black legislators, lawyers,
doctors, and even a black man on the U.S. Supreme Court, too, but that
doesn't make the masses of black people less oppressed. Also, women
get lower pay for the same jobs and they have to work harder to rise in
those jobs--just as black people do.
"Don't you know that women control most of the wealth in
this country? They also control individual men, not overtly but
indirectly. Women have the real power, baby."
First of all, we don't want to wield power as it is wielded
under the present system--to oppress, to destroy people's humanity.
But even if we did, we don't have anything like real power. Much of
that wealth is held by women nominally, for tax purposes. They
don't make decisions about it. They aren't on the corporate
boards of directors. They don't run industry, the military machine,
the governmental structures. It may be true that women exert forms of
indirect control over individual men, and it's an ugly phenomenon.
Women manipulate "behind the scenes" and use "feminine
wiles" because most of them have been denied the chance even to
think of themselves wielding power openly. Look how managers go through
all sorts of changes with male workers if they put a woman in a position
of authority. "Feminine wiles" is a product of women's
struggle for survival--it's a plastic sword, a paper tiger, phoney,
nothing. It's devoid of self-respect.
"But men are exploited, too. They do mostly unrewarding work.
They are not allowed to be full human beings either."
True. But men still oppress women. So in addition to fighting to
change the capitalist system, women must also fight men for recognition
of their humanity.
"It sounds like you hate men."
When a man says that, it's a self-defense tactic--trying to
put feminists in a hate bag, the way whites do to black militants. When
a woman says it, it's usually because she doesn't see her own
oppression. She doesn't see that she lives in a world of male
supremacy, not limited to the U.S.A. or to the capitalist system. From
the beginning of history, women have usually been seen by men--and
therefore by themselves--as the lesser of the sexes. In periods of
economic necessity, women have been allowed out of the home but quickly
put back when that need ended, and told that's where they always
belonged. The ideas are so old that it's no surprise women cannot
see what has happened to them.
"Are you trying to be like men, then?"
Our demand is not for equality. Who wants to be like men! We are
trying as women to define ourselves. We not only reject the definitions
that men have given us, but reject becoming like men.
"Your ideas may be all right for you personally, but why must
you impose a particular life style on other women? Some women really
want to serve a man in the traditional way, they just naturally want to
be housewives."
That sounds like the "happy slave" argument for the
South--a great rationalization for continuing oppression. There are at
least two things wrong with your point. First, no woman in a modern
Western society has grown up in the absence of lifelong pressure to seek
submissiveness, to want to be a housewife, to define herself in the
terms of the dominant male society. So no one can say for sure that such
attitudes and goals are innate in women, that they come
"naturally." Women have never had a chance to find out what
they really want; no one knows what a woman would choose if she were
free psychologically and technically.
In the second place, it doesn't seem really probable that
anyone would want to be no more than a housewife if all other avenues
were open. Housework is uncreative, no matter what the mass media say
about it in their relentless drive to sell a new cake mix or floor wax.
Anyone who has ever done that kind of work for an extended period knows
it is endless, repetitious drudgery with--worst of all--no relevance to
the larger human community. It provides a pathetic sense of being
needed, of identity, to many women. But anyone who thinks she feels good
as she surveys her kitchen after washing the 146,789th batch of
sparkling dishes isn't being "natural"; she's
literally lost her mind.
"Hey, I know a lot of men who wash dishes. Haven't you
ever met a henpecked husband? Or just a nice guy who believes in
helping?"
Man, that dish-washing argument has moth-holes by now. The point is
that such actions, no matter how much better than the man who won't
do anything in the house, don't alter the assignment of roles.
Housework remains the woman's job and then the man
"helps." If men started staffing nursery schools that might
reflect a real change in attitudes and roles. But the same man who will
wash dishes wouldn't be caught dead in a job taking care of very
young children--unless he could dress it up as some kind of sociological
experiment. Listen, children should have alternatives also--to be cared
for by men or women, or both.
"If giving women all possible alternatives includes the choice
never to have children, what happens to the human race?"
Society cannot lay the responsibility for continuing the race
solely on women. If there is any responsibility here, it's the
responsibility of society to offer women all possible choices by
developing new technology for continuing the species in other ways--so
that the task need not be unilaterally imposed on women.
"But what about the women who say that giving birth was the
most extraordinary experience of their lives. Would you deny them
that?"
It's true that some women say that. Others find childbirth
exciting but no more so than various other experiences. Some women begin
to enjoy children only when the kids attain a more developed humanness.
It seems possible that those who find childbirth their most outstanding
experience haven't yet had access to other experiences. Again, what
we want is a society in which women who want to try it can do so and
those who don't can not try it without being made to feel guilty,
inadequate, unfulfilled.
"Are you also advocating an end to families by putting all
kids in nurseries? Kids need mother love or they'll grow up
neurotic."
"Love" is a word screaming for redefinition. In sexual
relationships, it often means dependency, it's a weapon for
control, it's someone making an object out of someone else in order
to satisfy ego and security needs. People become a kind of very
elaborate, expensive furniture in each other's lives. "Mother
love" can usually be translated as a woman finding her identity
through another person. That's a terrible burden on the child, with
each generation transferring the burden on to the next. It's also a
paralysis of the woman's human development.
We believe that there is such a thing as humanistic love; that
everyone needs to experience it; that you cannot love if you have not
had the experience of being loved. But there is little social history to
prove that the conventional, nuclear family produces such love or that
it produces the happiest people. It usually turns out lonely runners in
a rat race rather than members of a human community. Its essence is like
that of capitalism; it projects children as possessions and as the
responsibility of individuals. But children are as much the possession
and responsibility of the community as the land, the waters, the air,
and the recourses available to man through nature.
Just what new forms should replace today's nuclear family--a
combination of social and private child care, totally socialized care,
the extended family or whatever--is not for us to determine. Men too
have a responsibility for working that out. More important, we reject
the idea that women must come up with a perfect formula for the human
race before their demands for liberation are met. We want to get The Man
off our backs; don't expect us to guarantee him a comfy chair to
sit in afterward.
"Well, even if that's all true, don't you think life
would be duller without the spark of sexual difference? Don't you
secretly dig the kinds of little tensions between men and women?"
Yeah, yeah, flirting is fun. A man opens a door for me, I thank
him, he smiles and electricity ripples through us both. A year later
I'm flushing out a diaper and he's opening other doors.
"No, I don't mean only lovers--just men and women working
together, for example. There's something special about the
relationship which doesn't exist between two people of the same sex
unless they're homosexual." That's still the undercurrent
of possible conquest. Of course there are differences between men and
women. But when men bring them up, it's usually with some form of
inferiority in the back of their minds.
"Ho hum. Well, what's your program?"
If there is anything we can learn from the black liberation
movement, it is that the primary job is consciousness-raising. Malcolm X
said it about black people in 1964 and it's equally true for us:
You can't give a people a program until they realize they need one,
and until they realize that all existing programs aren't ... going
to produce ... results. What we would like to do ... is to go into
our problem and just analyze ... and question things that you don't
understand so we can ... get a better picture of what faces us. If
you give people a thorough understanding of what it is that
confronts them, and the basic causes that produce it, they'll
create their own program.
It is amazing how quickly we have been able to affect the
consciousness of some women already. They see themselves as members of a
group for the first time instead of believing their problems to be
individual. Then they say, "Hey, I like women!" And
that's a real breakthrough.
"Well, I still think most women want things the way they are.
They may demand equal pay or less drudgery but they still want to have
the same kinds of personal relationships with men that people have had
for centuries. It's in nature."
A lot of women who say they just want to play the traditional roles
are simply fearful--or unable to imagine other ways of being. Old roles
can seem to offer a certain security. Freedom can seem frightening if
one has learned how to achieve a certain degree of power inside the
prison. We don't seek to impose anything on women but merely to
open up all possible alternatives; we do seek choice, as one of the
functions which makes people human beings. We want to be free people,
crippled neither by law or custom or our own chained minds. If there is
no room for that in nature, then nature must be changed.
"Well, all I can say is you must be a bunch of lesbians."
That's the one people always pull out last. It's the kind
of tactic the ruling class uses when it feels threatened by anyone who
challenges it. Queer-baiting is no different from Red-baiting.
Let's deal with the issues.
* Coauthored with Carol Hanisch and published by New York Radical
Women in Notes from the First Year. Thanks to Carol Hanisch for
permission to reprint.
** This figure of 10,000 deaths per year was commonly used at the
time by groups working to legalize abortion. Experts today claim it was
about 200 in 1968 [Carol Hanisch].