Breakup distress in university students.
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Breakup distress in university students may take the form of
complicated grief, an intense and prolonged period of grief following a
loss (Horowitz, Siegel, Holen, Bonanno, Milbrath, & Stinson, 1997).
Typically complicated grief is associated with a death, although many of
the complicated grief symptoms are similar to those of heartbreak
following a romantic relationship breakup. The criteria for complicated
grief have been defined as intensive intrusive thoughts, pangs of severe
emotion, distressing yearnings, feeling excessively alone and empty,
unusual sleep disturbances, and loss of interest in personal activities
(Horowitz et al., 1997). The term "complicated" reflects the
unresolved complications of normal functioning as assessed by the
Inventory of Complicated Grief (Prigerson, Maciejewski, Reynolds,
Bierhals, Newsom, Fasiczka, et al., 1995).
In a study that measured both uncomplicated grief (based on the
Texas Revised Inventory of Grief by Faschingbauer, 1981) and complicated
grief (based on the Inventory of Complicated Grief by Prigerson et al.,
1985), complicated grief scores were more related to anxiety,
depression, social functioning, and general health than symptoms of
uncomplicated grief (Boelen & van den Bout, 2008). In another study
on complicated grief, 55% of the sample were depressed (Simon, Shear,
Thompson, Zalta, Perlman, Reynolds, et al., 2007). Those who had
comorbid complicated grief and depression reported higher levels of
grief and more sleep disturbances and anxiety symptoms.
In a study on college students, complicated grief symptoms were
assessed by the Inventory of Complicated Grief, and insomnia and
associated sleep behaviors were also self-reported (Hardison, Neimeyer,
& Lichstein, 2005). The rate of insomnia was significantly higher in
the complicated versus the uncomplicated grief samples (22% versus 17%),
and sleep disturbances were related to intrusive thoughts about the loss
as well as images of the deceased in their dreams. In a study on
insomnia itself, the insomnia group experienced more images regarding
"intimate relationships" as compared to the good sleeper group
(Nelson & Harvey, 2003). Some have suggested that controlled
intrusive thoughts prior to sleep become intrusive images during sleep,
ultimately leading to insomnia.
Many of the complicated grief symptoms were reported in at least
one study on romantic relationship breakups, although it was a study on
adult women, not university students (Najib, Lorberbaum, Kose, Bohning,
& George, 2004). For this study, women who were grieving over the
loss of a romantic relationship and were experiencing intrusive thoughts
showed brain activity in different regions during intrusive versus
neutral thoughts. They also rated their mood states including sadness
and anxiety and their intrusive thoughts as being excessive.
Background literature on the variables that appeared to be affected
by romantic breakups suggested the following: Gender differences in
breakup distress have rarely been reported. But, in one study on
university students, men reported more difficulty than women in
recovering from broken relationships (Knox, Zusman, Kaluzny, &
Cooper, 2000). In another study, women were more distressed (Fisher,
2004). The latter finding would be expected given that women are more
readily depressed by stressful events (Nolen-Hoeksema, 2000).
Research on the initiator status (i.e., who ended the relationship)
also yielded mixed results. While one researcher reported that the level
of distress was unrelated to who ended the relationship (self or other)
(Waller, 2008), another group suggested that both men and women who were
rejected experienced more depression, loss of self-esteem and intrusive
thoughts than those who did the rejecting (Perilloux & Bus, 2008).
In another study, depression occurred in only those individuals who had
been rejected, not in those who initiated the rejection (Ayduk, Downey,
Testa, & Yen, 1991). In an experimental study comparing those who
saw a scenario in which they were rejected versus a scenario in which
they did the rejecting, higher levels of breakup distress were noted in
those who saw the scenario of being rejected (Waller, 2008).
The experience of rejection is fairly common. In a survey of Case
Western Reserve University, 95% of the students reported that they had
rejected someone who was in love with them, and 93% said that they had
been rejected by someone they loved (Baumeister, Wotman, &
Stillwell, 1993). Rejection in romantic relationships is said to be so
painful that people are "not only in agony but incapacitated"
(MacDonald & Leary, 2005). Rejection has also been accompanied by
increased blood pressure and cortisol levels (Stroud, Tranofsky-Kraff,
Wilfley, & Salovey, 2000), by analgesia or numbing (MacDonald &
Shaw, in press), and, paradoxically, by activation of the same part of
the brain that is activated by love (Eisenberger & Lieberman, 2003).
Rejection also has characteristics that are similar to drug withdrawal.
In an fMRI study, rejected individuals showed signs of drug withdrawal
including anxiety, depression, crying, loss of appetite, and
irritability, and their fMRIs were similar to those on cocaine or
opioids (Bartels & Zki, 2000). Because of the biochemical reaction,
for example endorphin release, rejection, not unlike complicated grief,
has been thought to have addiction-like properties and has been referred
to as "one of nature's most powerful aphrodisiacs"
(Fisher, 2004).
Betrayal involves deception and the breaking of a presumed trust or
confidence. The social-emotional pain that follows is said to be very
similar to physical pain, and the trauma that accompanies the anger of
betrayal has been likened to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (Fisher,
2004).
Not surprisingly, the amount of breakup distress is thought to be
related to the closeness and the duration of the broken relationship. In
one study, 3 of the 10 factors explored including closeness of the
relationship, duration of the relationship, and ease of finding an
alternative partner, reliably and independently predicted the intensity
and duration of emotional distress following the breakup (Simpson,
1987). At least one other investigator has reported that greater levels
of love are associated with a decreased probability of recovering during
the study (Sbarra, 2006).
The amount of time since the breakup seems to be inversely related
to the amount of breakup distress, such that a shorter period of time
since the breakup is related to greater distress (Knox et al., 2000;
Moller, Fouladi, McCarthy, & Hatch, 2003). In the Knox et al. (2000)
study, the most helpful factors in getting over a broken heart were time
and a new partner.
Finding a desirable new partner has seemed to be an important
variable in at least two studies (Knox et al., 2000; Simpson, 1987).
These findings are perhaps not surprising given the importance
attributed to relationships by several people including attachment
theorists (Shear & Shair, 2005) and those who view relationships as
regulators for daily activities and mood (Field, 1985; Hofer, 1984).
Inasmuch as the former partner can be a source of dysregulation,
even when viewed from photos (Kross, Egner, Ochsner, Hirsch, &
Downey, 2007), continuing contact with the former partner has had
disorganizing effects (Sbarra & Emery, 2005). Given these data, it
is surprising that at least in one study, equal numbers of university
students reported either remaining friends or not seeing their previous
partners (Knox et al., 2000).
Intrusive thoughts are one of the most painful heartbreak
experiences inasmuch as they are continual, uncontrollable, and often
distressing (Peirce, 2007). Some have explained intrusive thoughts as
occurring because individuals have unrealistic beliefs and expectations
that have to be reconciled when something very unexpected happens like
heartbreak (Wegner, Schneider, Carter, & White, 1987). In this
sense, they are thought to be a cognitive mechanism for absorption of
change or a complete shift in one's worldview (Peirce, 2007).
However, they contribute to anxiety, with vigilance and uncertainty
contributing to anxiety symptoms (Nolen-Hoeksema, 2000). Some have
suggested that it would not make adaptive sense to waste energy by
repeatedly having intrusive thoughts unless they served an adaptive
purpose (Peirce, 2007).
Much of the research on intrusive thoughts has focused on whether
suppression of intrusive thoughts increases or decreases the intrusive
thoughts. Most of this literature suggests that mentally suppressing the
idea of "white bears" causes a rebound effect, i.e., more
thoughts about "white bears" (Wegner et al., 1987). Thus,
suppression appears to have paradoxical effects in that it produces the
very thought that is to be avoided (Marcks & Woods, 2004).
Suppression seems, then, to result in increased intrusive thoughts
(Salkovskis & Campbell, 1993). Suppression of intrusive thoughts can
lead to depression (Nolen-Hoeksema, 1991) and to insomnia (Hobson et
al., 2000). The practice of suppressing thoughts during wakefulness often leads to their emergence during dreams, which some have said
happens for the sake of "giving the person peace during awake
time" (Hobson, Pace-Schott, & Stickgold, 2000).
Insomnia and sleep disturbances have been reported in as many as
43% of bereaved individuals and as long as 13 months after the loss
(Ford & Kamerow, 1989). Insomnia is thought to be more prevalent in
those experiencing complicated versus uncomplicated grief (22% versus
17%) Hardison et al., 2005). Poor sleep has been characteristic of
bereavement-related depression, whereas good sleep quality has
accompanied "successful" bereavement (McDermott, Prigerson,
Reynolds, Houck, Dew, Hall, et al., 1997; Reynolds, Hoch, Buysse, Houck,
Schlernitzauer, Pasternak, et al., 1993). In another study, comorbid
depression worsened sleep quality (Germain, Caroff, Buysse, & Shear,
2005).
The dissolution of a romantic relationship was one of the most
commonly nominated "worst events" in a large phone survey of
traumatic events and a prospective risk factor for the onset of Major
Depression Disorder (Monroe, 1999). In one study, over 40% experienced
clinical depression, with some 12% experiencing moderate to severe
depression (Mearns, 1991). People have also been noted to have heart
attacks or strokes following breakups and the ensuing depression
(Rosenthal, 2002). This has been attributed to decreasing dopamine levels associated with depression (Panksepp, 19987. Although women may
report more severe depression and hopelessness, being twice as likely to
experience depression as men, men are three to four times more likely to
commit suicide after a romantic rejection (Mearns, 1991; Ustun &
Sartorius, 1995). Further research on rejection suggests that depression
related to rejection occurs in individuals who have been rejected but
not in those who initiated the rejection (Ayduk et al., 2001).
Anxiety is often comorbid with depression, and anxiety was
significantly associated with relationship dissolution in a survey of
more than 5,000 internet respondents (Davis, Shaver, & Vernon,
2003). In this study, anxiety was labeled attachment-related anxiety.
This anxiety was associated with greater preoccupation with the lost
partner, more intrusive thoughts about the lost partner, more extreme
physical and emotional distress, and exaggerated attempts to
re-establish the relationship. Individuals with high scores on anxiety
measures have tended to have lower thresholds for physical pain (Wade
& Price, 2000), have generally been more rejection sensitive (Downey
& Feldman, 1996), and have tended to have higher anxiety levels
following breakups of close relationships (Feeney, 1999).
Breakups are notably frequent in university students (68% in our
university sample) and might be expected to cause negative mood states
and the kind of breakup distress that was noted for adult women (Najib
et al., 2004). The purpose of the present study was to assess breakup
distress and related factors that might contribute to breakup distress
in university students. The Inventory of Complicated Grief was adapted
to measure breakup distress. Other variables that had been related to
relationship breakups in both adult and university student research were
assessed including: (1) who initiated the breakup (self or other); (2)
whether it was sudden/unexpected; (3) whether the student felt betrayed
by the breakup; (4) whether the student felt rejected by the breakup;
(5) depression; (6) anxiety; (7) intrusive thoughts; (8) difficulty
controlling intrusive thoughts; (9) sleep disturbances; (10) how
positively the relationship was viewed prior to the breakup; (11)
duration of the relationship; (12) time since the breakup; and (13)
whether the respondent was in a new relationship. High and low breakup
distress groups were expected to differ on these variables, and these
variables, in turn, were expected to explain a significant amount of the
variance in breakup distress.
METHOD
Participants
The initial sample was 283 university students (78% female) who
averaged 21.3 years (R = 17-25) of age and were distributed 70% Hispanic
(of diverse origins), 12% African American, 10% Caucasian, and 8% other.
Of this sample, 192 (68%) had experienced a breakup 3.3 months ago on
average after a relationship that averaged 3.6 months duration. The
students had experienced 2.5 breakups on average, 1.7 of them having
been with the same partner.
Procedures
University students were recruited for this anonymous questionnaire
study from psychology classes at a southeastern university. The students
were given extra credit for their participation. During one of their
class sessions, the students completed a 120-item questionnaire, which
was comprised of demographic questions, items related to the
students' breakup, and the Breakup Distress Scale, a Relationship
Rating Scale, an Intrusive Thoughts Scale, a Difficulty Controlling
Intrusive Thoughts Scale, a Sleep Disturbance Scale, Depression (CES-D),
and Anxiety (STAI) scales.
The sample was first divided into two groups including those who
had experienced breakups (N = 192) versus those who had not (N = 91). No
differences were noted between these two groups on any of the
demographic variables tested (gender, ethnicity, age, and grade).
Further, no group differences were noted on the dependent variables.
Both groups had notably high scores on the scales we used including the
Intrusive Thoughts Scale, the Difficulty Controlling Intrusive Thoughts
Scale, the Sleep Disturbances Scale, and the depression (CES-D) and
anxiety (STAI) scales.
The breakup sample (N = 192) was then divided into high and low
breakup distress groups based on a median split on the Breakup Distress
Scale scores. No differences were noted between these groups on any of
the demographic variables (ethnicity, age, and grade) except for gender.
For the high and low distress groups respectively: (1) age averaged
24.99 and 23.27; (2) grade averaged 13.61 and 13.32; and (3) ethnicity
was distributed Hispanic (67% and 70%), Caucasian (16% and 12%), African
American (12% and 14%), and other (5% and 4%) (all ps non-significant).
The high Breakup Distress Scale score group had a proportionately
greater number of females than the low distress group (79% vs. 73%, [chi
square] = 5.03, p < .01), and females had higher scores on the
Breakup Distress Scale (M = 10.19 vs. 7.06, F = 6.41, p = .01).
Measures
The Breakup Distress Scale (BDS) was adapted from the Inventory of
Complicated Grief (ICG) (Prigerson et al., 1995). The ICG was an
outgrowth of research that found certain symptoms of grief to be
distinct from symptoms of depression and anxiety and, as a group, to
predict several types of enduring functional impairments. The seven
symptoms that loaded highly on the grief factor were: preoccupation with
thoughts of the deceased, crying, searching and yearning for the
deceased, disbelief about the death, being stunned by the death, and not
accepting the death (see Prigerson et al., 1995). The final ICG scale
contained 19 items, the internal consistency of which was high
(Cronbach's [alpha] = 0.94). The ICG total score showed a fairly
high association with the BDI total score (r = 0.87).
The Breakup Distress Scale was adapted from the ICG by referring to
the breakup person instead of the deceased person, and only 16 of the 19
ICG items that were appropriate to breakups were included. A different
rating scale was also used, i.e., a Likert scale with responses ranging
from 1 (not at all) to 4 (very much so) including: (1) I think about
this person so much that it's hard for me to do things I normally
do; (2) Memories of the person upset me; (3) I feel I cannot accept the
breakup I've experienced; (4) I feel drawn to places and things
associated with the person; (5) I can't help feeling angry about
the breakup; (6) I feel disbelief over what happened; (7) I feel stunned
or dazed over what happened; (8) Ever since the breakup it is hard for
me to trust people; (9) Ever since the breakup I feel like I have lost
the ability to care about other people or I feel distant from people I
care about; (10) I have been experiencing pain since the breakup; (11) I
go out of my way to avoid reminders of the person; (12) I feel that life
is empty without the person; (13) I feel bitter over this breakup; (14)
I feel envious of others who have not experienced a breakup like this;
(15) I feel lonely a great deal of the time since the breakup; and (16)
I feel like crying when I think about the person.
The Intrusive Thoughts Scale (ITS) was comprised of 4 items rated
on a Likert scale from 1 (not at all) to 4 (very much so) including: (1)
Approximately how often per day would you say the intrusive thoughts
occur?; (2) How distressing are the intrusive thoughts?; (3) How vivid
are the intrusive thoughts?; and (4) How much does the event appear to
be happening now instead of happening in the past?
The Difficulty Controlling Intrusive Thoughts Scale (DCITS) was
adapted from the Thought Control Questionnaire (TCQ) Wells & Davies,
1994). The TCQ was developed by Wells and Davies (1994) to measure
individual differences in the use of thought control strategies. The TCQ
consists of 30 statements summarized by five factors as follows:
reappraisal, distraction, punishment, social control, and worry. The
DCITS was adapted from the TCQ by selecting 19 of the 30 items and
rating them on a different scale, i.e., a Likert scale ranging from 1
(not at all) to 4 (very much so) including: (1) I get angry at myself
for having intrusive thoughts; (2) I tell myself not to think about them
now; (3) I tell myself not to be so stupid; (4) I try to push the
thoughts out of my head; (5) I say, "Stop" to myself; (6) I
occupy myself with work instead; (7) I keep myself busy; (8) I do
something I enjoy; (9) I try to block them out by reading, watching
T.V., or listening to the radio; (10) I do something physical; (11) I
focus on different negative thoughts; (12) I worry about more minor
things; (13) I replace an intrusive thought with a more trivial bad
thought; (14) I dwell on other worries; (15) I think about past worries
instead; (16) I focus on the thoughts; (17) I ruminate about the
thoughts; (18) I count sheep or other things; and (19) I get out of bed
and I write about them.
The Sleep Disturbances Scale was comprised of 4 items rated on a
Likert scale from 1 (none) to 4 (a lot), including: (1) Trouble falling
asleep last night; (2) Trouble with disrupted sleep last night; (3)
Amount of sleep last night; and (4) Amount of exhaustion this morning.
The Center for Epidemiology Studies-Depression Scale (CES-D)
(Radloff, 1977) is a 20-item scale that assesses the frequency of
depressive symptoms within the last week. With scores ranging from 0 to
60, a cut-off score of 16 is used for classifying depression. With only
a 6% false positive and 36% false negative rate (Myers & Weissman,
1980), this scale has been shown to be reliable and valid for diverse
demographic groups.
The State Anxiety Inventory (STAI) (Spielberger, Gorsuch, &
Lushene, 1970) is comprised of 20 items and assesses the intensity of
anxiety symptoms. The scores range from 20 to 90, and the cutoff for
high anxiety is 48. Research has demonstrated that the STAI has adequate
concurrent validity and internal consistency.
RESULTS
Chi Square tests
Chi square tests were first conducted on the number of students who
experienced variables that might contribute to breakup distress. As can
be seen in Table 1, the following results emerged: (1) equal numbers of
students initiated or did not initiate the breakups; (2) a lower number
of students mutually agreed to the breakup; (3) equal numbers of
students did and did not experience the breakup as sudden/unexpected;
(4) equal numbers felt or did not feel totally rejected; (5) more
students experienced betrayal; (6) more students had hoped for
permanence of the relationship; (7) fewer students experienced hope for
renewal of the relationship; (8) more students reported that their
former partner had a new relationship; and (10) more students reported
that they no longer saw or talked with the person of the broken
relationship.
ANOVAs were conducted on the Breakup Distress Scores for the Yes/No
responses on primary variables that had been frequently mentioned in the
adult relationship breakup literature. As for the first set of
variables, the groups were split on their yes/no responses. As can be
seen in Table 2, the following results emerged: (1) those who did not
initiate the breakup had higher breakup distress scores than those who
initiated the breakup; (2) those who experienced the breakup as
sudden/unexpected had higher breakup distress scores than those who did
not have that experience; (3) those who felt rejected had higher breakup
distress scores than those who did not feel rejected; (4) those who felt
betrayed had higher breakup distress scores than those who did not feel
betrayed; and (5) those who were in a new relationship had lower breakup
distress scores.
In another set of ANOVAs, the breakup sample was divided by a
median split on Breakup Distress Scale scores. As can be seen in Table
3, the results revealed that those in the high breakup distress group:
(1) had less time following the breakup; (2) assigned higher ratings to
their relationships prior to the breakup; (3) had a longer relationship
prior to the breakup; (4) had higher scores on the Intrusive Thoughts
Scale; (5) had higher scores on the Difficulty Controlling Intrusive
Scale; (6) had higher sleep disturbances scores; (7) had higher
depression (CES-D) scores; and (8) had higher anxiety (STAI) scores.
Correlation Analyses
Correlation analyses were then conducted between Breakup Distress
Scale scores and those variables thought to contribute to breakup
distress. As can be seen in Table 4, many of the variables that differed
significantly on the ANOVAs were also significantly correlated with the
Breakup Distress Scale scores. Female gender was positively correlated
with breakup distress as was the other person being the initiator of the
breakup. Other positively correlated variables with the Breakup Distress
Scale scores were the sudden/unexpected nature of the breakup, being
totally rejected, being betrayed, rating of the prior relationship,
duration of the prior relationship, expected permanency of the prior
relationship and hope to renew the prior relationship. The self-report
scale scores were also positively related to the Breakup Distress Scale
scores and with very high correlation coefficients including: (1) the
Intrusive Thoughts Scale; (2) the Difficulty Controlling Intrusive
Thoughts Scale; (3) the Sleep Disturbances Scale; (4) Depression
(CES-D); and (5) the Anxiety (STAI) scores. Correlation coefficients
ranged from .34 to .57 (all ps < .05). In the same correlation
analysis, negative relationships were observed including that higher
Breakup Distress Scale Scores were related to a shorter time since the
breakup and lower Breakup Distress Scale scores were related to having a
new relationship and the other person having a new relationship.
Stepwise Regression
AS can be seen in Table 5, a Stepwise Regression Analysis on the
Breakup Distress Scale scores revealed the following: (1) the depression
(CES-D) scale scores contributed to 17% of the variance at step 1; (2)
feeling betrayed by the breakup added 10% of the variance; (3) time
since the breakup occurred (less time since the breakup) contributed to
an additional 7% of the variance; and (4) the relationship rating prior
to the breakup (a higher rating) contributed an additional 4% to the
variance. The entire model explained 37% of the variance on the Breakup
Distress Scale scores.
DISCUSSION
In this university student sample, two-thirds of the students had
experienced a breakup approximately 3 months previously. Their
relationships had lasted an average of 4 months, and they had an average
of 2.5 relationships prior to the breakup, with 1.7 of the 2.5 being
breakups with the same person. In general, both those who had and those
who had not experienced breakups showed high scores on the intrusive
thoughts, difficulty controlling intrusive thoughts, and sleep
disturbances scales. Their depression and anxiety scores were also
higher than the cut-off scores for depression and anxiety (based on the
Center for Epidemiological Studies Depression Scale and the State
Anxiety Inventory).
The breakup sample was then divided into high versus low breakup
distress on the Breakup Distress Scale. These groups did not differ on
demographic variables (ethnicity, age, grade) except for gender. As has
been noted in the adult literature, the female students experienced
greater breakup distress (Perilloux & Buss, 2008). Among those who
had experienced a breakup, equal numbers of students reported that they
had initiated the breakup or that the other person had initiated the
breakup. Equal numbers also suggested it was sudden and unexpected or
not sudden and unexpected, and equal numbers said that they felt
rejected or not rejected. Differences occurred on important variables
including that a greater number of students reported that they did not
agree to the breakup, that they felt betrayed, that they had thought
that the relationship was permanent, that they had no hope to renew the
relationship, that they no longer saw or talked with the person, that
they had a new relationship but that their broken relationship partner
did not have a new relationship.
The group with high versus low scores on the Breakup Distress Scale
reported having less time since the breakup occurred. This finding is
consistent with others reporting inverse relationships between the time
since a breakup and the breakup distress (Knox et al., 2000; Mollere et
al., 2003). As noted, in the Knox et al. (2000) study, time was one of
the most helpful factors in getting over a broken heart. Those with
higher Breakup Distress Scale scores also scored higher on the Intrusive
Thoughts Scale. This finding was not surprising inasmuch as several
investigators have suggested that intrusive thoughts are one of the most
distressing heartbreak experiences (Peirce, 2007; Wegner et al., 1987),
although they are also thought to be a cognitive mechanism for
"absorption of change or a complete shift in one's
worldview" (Peirce, 2007). The Difficulty Controlling Intrusive
Thoughts Scale scores were also higher for the high-scoring Breakup
Distress group. Although suppression of the intrusive thoughts often
leads to increased intrusive thoughts (Salkovskis & Campbell, 1993),
depression (Nolen-Hoeksema, 1991), and insomnia (Hobson et al., 2000),
they are also thought to "give the person peace during awake
time" (Hobson et al., 2000). The high scores on the Sleep
Disturbances Scale for the high-scoring Breakup Distress Scale group are
also consistent with the literature inasmuch as insomnia and sleep
disturbances have been reported in as many as 43% of bereaved
individuals (Ford & Kamerow, 1989) and are more prevalent in those
experiencing complicated versus uncomplicated grief (Hardison et al.,
2005).
Higher depression and anxiety scores in the more distressed group
of students are consistent with the adult literature that has reported
breakups being a prospective risk factor for the onset of Major
Depression Disorder (Monroe, 1999). And anxiety is not only frequently
comorbid with depression but was also significantly associated with
relationship dissolution in a survey of more than 5,000 internet
responders (Davis et al., 2003).
In the regression analysis, the most important predictors of the
Breakup Distress Scale scores were the depression score (CES-D), feeling
betrayed by the breakup, a shorter time since the breakup occurred, and
a higher rating of the relationship prior to the breakup. These
variables explained as much as 37% of the variance, suggesting that
these factors were important contributors to the relationship breakup
distress. These predictors might be expected inasmuch as depression has
been associated with other kinds of grief, and betrayal has been noted
to be similar to physical pain (Fisher, 2004). Time since the breakup
has been cited as one of the most helpful factors in getting over a
broken heart (Knox et al., 2000), and a higher rating of the
relationship prior to the breakup would logically make for more breakup
distress.
Therapies for Complicated Grief. Several therapies that have been
effective with depression have also been tried with complicated grief
and may be appropriate for breakup distress including Interpersonal
Psychotherapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Although randomized
control trials have not yet been conducted on psychotherapies with
complicated grief, when Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy was compared to
supportive counseling, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy produced more
improvement in complicated grief than did supportive counseling (Boelen,
de Keijser, van den Hout, & van den Bout, 2007). Manualized
psychotherapy has been developed specifically for complicated grief
(Stroebe & Schut, 1999). Complicated Grief Therapy addresses the
symptoms by retelling the story of the loss. This retelling procedure is
called "revisiting." Ina study comparing that form of
treatment to Interpersonal Psychotherapy, both treatments significantly
reduced complicated grief symptoms, but the response rate was greater
for Complicated GriefTherapy than for Interpersonal Psychotherapy (51%
versus 28%). In addition, the time to respond was shorter for
Complicated Grief Therapy (Stroebe & Schut, 1999).
Potential underlying mechanisms for complicated grief and breakup
distress. Risk factors for complicated grief are thought to include
separation anxiety in childhood (Vanderwerker et al., 2006), neglect and
abuse in childhood (Silverman, Johnson, & Prigerson, 2001), insecure
attachment style (van Doorn, Kasl, Beery, Jacobs, & Prigerson,
1998), and lack of preparation for the loss (Barry, Kasl, &
Prigerson, 2001). Several different approaches have been taken in
researching potential underlying mechanisms for complicated grief
including exploring parallels between the symptoms of loss in animals
and humans, measuring physiological and biochemical reactions,
conducting fMRIs during memory of loss situations and through studying
genetic variation and affected genes.
For example, one fMRI study has been conducted on regional brain
activity following a romantic relationship breakup (Najib et al., 2004).
For this study, women who were grieving over the loss of a romantic
relationship and were experiencing intrusive thoughts were monitored for
regional brain activity during intrusive versus neutral thoughts. They
also rated their mood states including sadness, anxiety, and anger
during their intrusive and neutral thoughts. Women were selected because
of the gender differences in brain correlates of sadness (George,
Ketter, Parekh, Herscovitch, & Post, 1996) and because they
generally have higher levels of rumination following breakups than do
men (Nolen-Hoeksema, Grayson, & Larson, 1999). The women had lost
their romantic partner within the preceding four months and were
experiencing problems getting their ex-lover out of their mind and still
feeling sad about the breakup. Their ratings for intrusive thoughts
relative to neutral thoughts were higher for sadness, anger, anxiety,
and generally negative emotions and lower for intrusive thoughts
relative to neutral thoughts for happiness. Findings from the fMRI brain
scans also suggested that grieving about a breakup is a mixed emotional
state of sadness, anger, and anxiety.
These results highlight several factors related to breakup distress
and the relationships between the Breakup Distress Scale and other
well-known measures of depression (CES-D) and anxiety (STAI). The high
incidence of breakups in university students and their breakup distress
suggest the importance of finding effective therapies for this problem.
The similarity of breakup distress to complicated grief syndrome further
suggests the need for considering breakup distress as a DSM-V diagnosis.
It should be noted that these results might not generalize to other
university student populations inasmuch as the majority of students in
this sample were Hispanic women (78%). Further research is needed to
investigate these problems in this predominantly Hispanic female
psychology student population. In particular, exploring cultural
differences in breakup distress among participants of Latin/Hispanic
origin would be important in light of the research findings showing
different love attitudes and patterns of Cuban-Americans, Mexicans, and
Spaniards (Rodriguez, Montgomery, Palaez, & Salas, 2003). Rodriguez
et al., (2003) found that in a Hispanic sample in Miami, on average,
breakups were more frequent among Mexican and Spanish students who
tended to be more pragmatic in their approach to relationships. That
group has already been identified as having more breakups (Rodriguez et
al., 2003), highlighting the special need for intervention for this
group of university students.
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Table 1. Chi Square tests on the number of students who gave Yes/No
responses on variables that might contribute to breakup distress
Responses (N)
Variables Yes No
Initiated Breakup 102 91
Both Agree 82 110
Sudden/Unexpected 90 102
Feel Totally Rejected 87 106
Feel Betrayed 110 82
Hope for Permanence Relat. 117 76
Hope for Renewal Relat. 57 136
New Relationship for Self 107 85
New Relationship for Other 84 96
See/Talk with Person Still 85 107
Variables Chi Square p
Initiated Breakup .63 .43
Both Agree 4.08 .04
Sudden/Unexpected .75 .39
Feel Totally Rejected 1.87 .17
Feel Betrayed 4.08 .04
Hope for Permanence Relat. 8.71 .003
Hope for Renewal Relat. 32.34 .000
New Relationship for Self 97.29 .000
New Relationship for Other 165.96 .000
See/Talk with Person Still 93.55 .000
Table 2. Means for Breakup Distress Scores for Yes/No
responses on primary variables (Standard deviations in
parentheses).
Primary Variables No Yes
Initiated Breakup 13.25 (10.2) 10.30 (9.37)
Sudde/Unexpected 10.31 (9.55) 13.21 (9.82)
Felt Rejected 8.78 (7.97) 15.28 (10.60)
Felt Betrayed 7.50 (7.83) 14.81 (9.97)
New Relationship 15.22 (10.35) 8.83 (8.26)
Primary Variables F p
Initiated Breakup 4.40 .04
SuddeNUnexpected 4.29 .04
Felt Rejected 23.38 .000
Felt Betrayed 29.99 .000
New Relationship 22.53 .000
Table 3. Means for high and low score Breakup Distress
Groups (Standard deviations in parentheses).
Primary Variables Low High
Time Since Breakup (mos.) 3.62 (1.57) 2.99 (1.73)
Relat. Rating Pre-breakup (1-4) 2.36 (.92) 2.72 (.98)
Duration Relationship (mos.) 3.36 (1.70) 3.75 (1.54)
Intrusive Thoughts 2.88 (2.94) 5.63 (2.84)
Controlling Int. Thoughts 15.73 (10.61) 26.05 (8.18)
Sleep Disturbances 4.00 (2.39) 5.35 (2.97)
Depression (CES-D) 13.56 (9.30) 20.88 (11.22)
Anxiety (STAI) 38.36 (11.34) 45.69 (10.55)
Primary Variables F p
Time Since Breakup (mos.) 6.76 .01
Relat. Rating Pre-breakup (1-4) 9.07 .003
Duration Relationship (mos.) 34.19 .04
Intrusive Thoughts 15.27 .000
Controlling Int. Thoughts 27.20 .000
Sleep Disturbances 9.07 .003
Depression (CES-D) 8.15 .005
Anxiety (STAI) 9.05 .003
Table 4. Correlations between Breakup Distress Scale scores
and other variables.
Variables r p
Gender (female) .16 .03
Initiator (other) .15 .04
Sudden/Unexpected (Yes) .15 .04
Both agree (No) .10 NS
Totally rejected (Yes) .33 .000
Betrayal (Yes) .37 .000
Relationship rating .21 .004
Duration relationship (mos.) .16 .03
Expected permanency (Yes) .26 .000
Hope to renew (Yes) .17 .02
# Previous breakups same person .09 NS
Time since breakup (less time) .25 .001
Still see person (No) .05 NS
New relat. for you (No) .33 .000
New relat. for other (No) .15 .04
Intrusive Thoughts .57 .000
Difficulty Controlling .55 .000
Intrusive Thoughts
Sleep Disturbances Scale .34 .000
Depression (CES-D) .39 .000
Anxiety (STAI) .36 .000
Table 5. Stepwise regression on Breakup Distress Scale
scores
Step 1 2 3 4
R .41 .52 .58 .61
R square .17 .27 .33 .37
[R.sup.2] change .17 .10 .07 .04
F for change 29.43 20.09 14.38 .85
p .000 .000 .000 .000
Predictors in order of their entry
1--Depression (CES-D) scores
2--Feeling betrayed by the breakup
3--Time since the breakup occurred
4--Relationship rating prior to the breakup