Speaking from the Heart: Gender and the Social Meaning of Emotion.
Rotundo, E. Anthony
Speaking from the Heart: Gender and the Social Meaning of Emotion.
By Stephanie A. Shields (New York: Cambridge University Press, 2002. xii
plus 214 pp.).
This fresh analysis by Stephanie Shields is important for anyone
interested in gender or emotion, in the past or the present. It is a
brief but densely-argued work. For present purposes, let me extract four
of its key propositions.
The first and most central is that emotion constructs gender and
vice versa. The second proposition is that the process by which we learn
and practice emotion (in both senses of "practice") is a
gendered process. The content and the experience of learning about
emotion differ for the two sexes. In turn, this gendered process by
which we learn emotion is crucial to the way we learn and experience
gender. Shields draws on a broad array of psychological research to show
that the propositions we learn (and practice) about emotion are largely
phrased in terms of gender--and thus many of our most important gender
boundaries involve adherence to norms of emotion. Because these norms
are attached to the way we feel about everything, the way we live with
gender boundaries is vital to maintaining our sense of self throughout
life. And so gender boundary violations, implies Shields, become
emotion-drenched violations of the intimate sense of self.
What, then, are the gendered norms of emotion? They grow out of the
third proposition, which is that there are good and bad styles of
managing emotion, with the good one marked "male" and the bad
one marked "female." The fourth proposition is that these
gendered emotional styles have a history. Shields dates them to the late
nineteenth century when early social scientists began to explore gender
difference. They viewed man and women as prone by nature to different
forms of reason and emotion. "Feminine reason" was about
common sense and a keen perception of the everyday. It was limited in
scope and modest in strength. To these late-Victorian scholars,
"feminine emotion" had good and bad sides. At its best, women
showed deep empathy and sympathy, the very qualities of emotional style
needed to be a nurturing mother. The danger of feminine emotion was its
tendency to overwhelm women, to drown them in a flood of their own
sympathy and sentiment. Ultimately, these early scientists cast feminine
emotion as emotion-out-of-control, "bad emotion."
By contrast, they saw male reason and emotion as a powerful,
productive combination. "Male reason" was strong, abstract,
broad-ranging, dispassionate. It thus made a perfect balance wheel to
"manly emotion," which consisted of powerful and urgent
passions. In the eyes of the social scientists, male reason channeled
manly emotion into passionate commitments to sweeping causes, large
ideas, broad goals. Manly emotion, then, was "good emotion,"
emotion that was socially creative, under control. When the late
nineteenth-century scholars addressed the dangers of male emotion, they
described it as destructive, urgent passion ungoverned by reason;
and--being themselves elite white males--they attributed this ungoverned
passion to "savages" and animals, to men of lesser classes and
races.
Shields says that these formulations have come down to us today in
modified form but with the fundamental idea intact: that women are
victims of their own emotionality. One of the key modifications, in
Shields's view, is a shift from "passions" as the core of
"manly emotion" to a more specific focus on anger at the
center of things. But anger serves, as the passions once did, to provide
a social driving force, and this driving force--under the rein of
reason--achieves great social aims. Thus, men--who of course have better
access to manly emotion--deserve to exercise the dominant power in
society. And this connection of power to gender and emotion has a
personal correlate as well: all of us (women as well as men) must
measure up to the standard of "manly emotion" as "good
emotion," even though men's emotional education teaches them
to meet that standard and women's doesn't. "Manly
emotion" is the "neutral," naturalized standard of
emotion, with a built-in gender bias.
Shields's historical account raises as many questions as it
answers. How did a set of formulations devised by a few white male
scholars in one century become the dominant norm for a whole culture in
the next? Did these formulations already exist? Did the scientists just
stamp "natural" on what was already a dominant set of norms?
By what process did "passions" transmute into anger as the
engine of "manly emotion?" Did the process of social learning
(sketched in great detail by Shields) remain constant over time or is it
a historical and cultural variable? If it has changed over time, what
was the nature of those changes and what might their implications be for
social outcomes? And, indeed, is Shields's historical formulation correct in the first place?
To be fair to Shields, the purpose of her book is to construct a
theory about the intersection of gender and emotion, not to write a
history. And to be fair again, she poses her theory as a challenge to
other scholars, including historians. Her goal, she writes,
is to move the discussion about gender and emotion beyond the
discussion of sex differences not only to advance theory on gender
and emotion, but also to set the stage for a more sophisticated
discussion of the intersections of gender and emotion with racial
ethnicity, historical period, culture, and class. (p. 25)
Historians should take up Shields's challenge. Two groups of
scholars could benefit in particular. One is historians of gender for
whom Shields's complex theory (whose intricacies I can only hint at
here) provides great promise in tracing the connections between gender
and power. Another is historians of emotion, for whom Shields's
formulation could provide an alternative to the dominant and often
distorting model provided by Norbert Elias. Especially for these two
groups of historians, this challenging book is a "must-read."
E. Anthony Rotundo
Boston University