标题："I remember checking on my mother to see if she was still breathing." How a relationship maintains,regulates,and helps resolve traumatic experiences: relational family integration
其他标题："Spominjam se,kako sem preverjal,ali mama še diha." Kako družinski odnosi ohranjajo,regulirajo in razrešujejo travmatične izkušnje: relacijsko družinska integracija
摘要：Traumatic experience is one of the most devastating experiences the family can endure.In order to understand why an experience maintains its traumatic nature we must take into account that trauma could be used as a powerful regulative mechanism in the family system precisely because of its organic component.For the first time in the history of psychology,this enables us to connect interpersonal relations with a person's organic nature and to establish that this nature is subordinated to the relationship or space between "I" and "you," which opens an extensive area and continually makes new discoveries possible.In the following vignette we will see that family systems,marked by trauma,develop very specific affective dynamics for affect regulation,which maintains the trauma.Trauma is transferred into interpersonal relations through basic affect and through the development of attachment;traumatic experiences remain present and powerful through multiple generations.The discovery of a new perspective on trauma lies in the fact that a trauma,for which no one takes responsibility,remains unmanageable.
其他摘要：Travmatična izkušnja je ena najbolj uničujočih izkušenj,ki lahko zadenejo družinski sistem.Če hočemo razumeti,zakaj določena izkušnja ohranja travmatične razsežnosti,moramo vedeti,da je travma lahko zelo učinkovit mehanizem regulacije afekta v družinskem sistemu prav zaradi svoje organske narave.In prav to spoznanje nam odpira vpogled v organsko naravo medosebnih odnosov in prostora,ki se ustvari med "jaz" in "ti".Na primeru terapije bomo pokazali,kako dinamika regulacije afekta ohranja travmo znotraj sistema skozi več generacij.Odkritje novega pogleda na travmo je namreč,da travma,ki je nihče ne vzame nase,torej zanjo ne prevzame odgovornosti,ohranja svojo neobvladljivost in se z nezmanjšano močjo preko okrnjenega sočutja in neobvladljive tesnobe do otrok prenaša iz generacije v generacijo ter preko sekundarne travmatizacije od partnerja k partnerju.Šele odnos,ki bo omogočil sprejemanje odgovornosti za travmo,bo tako ustvaril zdrave razmejitve ter zaustavil prenašanje travmatičnih afektov.
