So could YOU make love in front of a complete stranger?

Would you be prepared to make love in front of a stranger? Couples consulting sexpert Patrick Keeley do. Patrick, 42, teaches hands-on sex classes after spending 17 years learning Taoist Chinese sex techniques.

Singer Sting is a big fan of their disciplined approach to a mind- blowing sex life - and Patrick claims success in helping couples with sex problems ranging from impotence to lack of orgasm to sexual boredom.

Carol Taggart, 29, and Paul Havers, 32, consulted Patrick (pictured right) when their 10-year relationship lost its sparkle. Carol tells what happened...

THE first time I had sex with Paul it felt like the earth had moved. But 10 years on and the magic had gone, sex was something we did, not something that made me tremble with excitement

I really love Paul and we're very happy. But the sex thing was worrying me, I wanted to put a bit of excitement back.

I tried everything; sexy outfits, romantic evenings, but none of it seemed to work. Then a friend told me about Patrick's sex classes and I rang him.

I felt so nervous I kept tumbling over my words. Talking to a stranger about sex isn't something I'm used to.

But he was really easy to talk to, and I found myself telling him stuff I've never even told Paul. Even so, it was four weeks before I finally plucked up enough courage to see him.

I was so tense, I couldn't eat and my tummy rumbled all the way through the appointment.

At Patrick's house we sat on the settee in silence. I'm not a person who has a problem talking - my friends call me motor mouth - but I was tongue tied.

I swallowed my tea down in great gulps while Patrick asked us about our sex lives.

He suggested we try some breathing exercises. He said correct breathing would improve sexual feelings and help us relax. I was so relieved that I didn't have to take my clothes off, I started chatting away like a nutter.

The session was over in no time and we were given homework - we both had to flex our PC muscles, the ones that stop and start the flow of urine - and come back in a week.

I practised everywhere. I'd sit on the train with a big grin on my face - the whole thing made me feel pretty sexy - I could flex those muscles everywhere and no one knew.

It wasn't until we'd had four sessions that I felt comfortable enough to take my clothes off. Then Patrick asked me to sit on top of Paul with my legs either side of his.

He said this was a classic Tantric (ancient Indian sexperts) position and would help lengthen the time spent having an orgasm.

I felt really sexy, and I could see from the way Paul was looking at me that he was turned on, too. He started caressing my spine, and before I knew it we were making love while Patrick watched.

Patrick is very clever, he stood in a corner and all I could hear was his calm voice telling Paul: "Go shallow... now go for deeper penetration and squeeze those PC muscles!"'

Afterwards, I was on a high, but later we both felt like kids who'd done something naughty, so we got drunk. I kept thinking: '"What would my mother say?"'

I was shocked that I'd made love in front of someone I hardly knew - and most of all at how easy it had been.

The next time, Patrick asked us to do an exercise called soul gazing.'We both got undressed and sat in the lotus position.

'He said: "Look at each other's eyes for 10 minutes, and try to see the other person for what they really are.

"Then tell each other how you feel. This will help you feel emotionally close."

As I looked at Paul's eyes, I realised how much he cares for me and how little time we spend really talking.

"Taking time to really talk while at our most vulnerable - naked - changed all that. We're so much closer in so many ways. We discuss how we feel about everything.

Then Patrick asked me to try some massage routines. I placed my hands on Paul's back and pressed the energy spots that Patrick pointed to.

When it was my turn to be massaged, I felt weak with desire. Feeling his hands on my feet and legs, while I concentrated on raising sexual energy - by breathing deeply - brought me to the point of orgasm.

Now when I have sex, instead of moving my body, I flex individual muscles. I can't quite crack walnuts yet - but I'm working on it!

The exercises have made me multi-orgasmic. I can have as many orgasms as I want for as long as I want - sometimes I'll have a single orgasm that will last for an hour.

My relationship has changed dramatically.

Every week we put four or five hours aside for sex - take the phone off the hook, lock the door - and spend hours bringing each other to a climax.

We have sex every day, and everything is special and exciting.

We're in love all over again. It's as though we've only just met - and can't get enough of each other.

SEVEN STEPS TO A HEAVENLY TIME IN BED!

Here are Patrick's sexy seven tips to give your love- life a real lift...

1. ALL-over orgasms, which flow through the whole body depend on the muscles that start and stop the flow of urine being well-toned. Next time you have sex, especially just before and during an orgasm, clench these muscles. This will help lengthen the time of orgasm.

2. During sex, practise deep breathing from the stomach rather than the chest. This will help increase sexual sensations.

3. Before sex, sit naked in front of your partner and look deeply into their eyes, then tell each other how you feel.

4. Make a noise - even laugh or cry - during intercourse to help relieve bottled-up emotions.

5. Try giving and receiving sex. Men often have trouble receiving pleasure. Tell him to let you do all the work for a change, then swop roles.

6. Try out this Taoist sex spot which is just for women. Press a point known as the triple yin'for 60 seconds, which is located three inches up from the ankle on the inside of the leg. This energy spot will send sexual feelings shooting up the body.

7. For erections that will last for hours, follow these simple steps. Get your man 70 per cent of the way to having an orgasm. Then get him to squeeze and contract his urine muscles until the erection deflates. Practising this every day will help your man have erections that keep going while you have your third, fourth...and fifth orgasm!

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