The objective of this work was a psychoanalytic study through R. Kaës method, ‘analysis of the narrative’, considering the vicissitudes of the instinct in the loving contemporary choices of the subject as data to discuss. In the configuration of the current model of interpersonal relation the phenomenon implicit are reflected under the freudian theory and recent literature. Some considerations point to the necessity of an over view of the loving contemporary choices in the current society and in the childhood psychosexual aspects, if the pathologies and the behaviors changed, the origin still is the same from fixation and the regression.